Meet my family…
My oldest is Destiny (the one on the right), the youngest is Alicia (on the left), and my husband Doug, who is my girls' step-dad.
When my kids were born, I thought I did everything in my power to learn how to raise healthy children. I did everything that the books said to do, I breastfed them (or in one case, at least attempted) made them eat vegetables and fruit, and also made sure my house relatively clean. I was married to their dad at the time, and I was working on myself, (I had previously left their dad when I found out I was pregnant with Destiny…that's another long story) To have a healthy family relationship I had to forgive their dad for everything he had done to me before I left and got my own place. I had to learn how to love myself so that my kids could be raised with both parents under one roof…or so I thought…(ya have to read to the end to understand exactly what happened and how a healthy relationship is key to a healthy life.)
I tried going back to work after Destiny was born. It just didn't work out for me. I felt like I was rushing her out of bed in the morning and rushing her to bed at night. I talked with her dad and he agreed it would be easier on all of us if I just stayed home. So I became a stay at home mom. I loved every minute of it! After Alicia came along and both girls were potty trained, I decided to go to nursing school because the girls' dad had some health issues, (he actually had a heart attack on Alicia's 3rd birthday) and Alicia was in the NICU (neonatal intensive care unit) for a bit after she was born. I had no idea what the doctors and nurses were talking about with their medical language, and when I asked questions, they acted like it was an inconvenience to explain it to me. One nurse even rolled her eyes, I thought “Wow! I would never treat people like that if I was a nurse!” Staying home with the girls left me with a lot of time to get to know myself, who I wanted to be, and prepare for the worst that could happen. Anyhoo, the girls' dad agreed to put me through nursing school, and I did the best to work my schedule around his so I could be home with the girls while he was at work. This is where I began learning all the crazy stuff that’s in our food and cleaning supplies, and how they harm our bodies, along with all the bacteria, viruses and parasites that roam the world.
It was fascinating! I was so intrigued by how our body reacted to basically everything in our environment, whether good or bad. I never questioned what was in our food or cleaning products before this point in my life. Who would have thought all this awful stuff was allowed to be in our food and cleaning products??? Isn't the government testing this stuff??? Surely the government doesn't want us poisoning our families. Or, maybe they just don't care… (yeah, the more I learned, the more I realized the government doesn't care). I also so learned that the recipes and formulas for products were changed when shipping to Europe and Canada. I was devastated at the thought of what I was doing to myself and my two helpless little girls (their dad was in denial about his health….another long story).
I had two adorable toddler girls
I was not going to have my kids grow up sick because of my ignorance, which led me to change the way I did a lot of things around my home. I know what you're thinking. but Rhonda… I can't afford to buy good food and non-toxic products. Yeah, ya can… I was a stay at home mom with one income at the time when I made these drastic changes. Ya just have to know how to be resourceful.
Being a stay at home mom and only having so much to spend on food and clothing, I became very resourceful. I started reading labels and buying food that contained no preservatives and chemicals for my family. I also started investigating cleaning supplies. I became the person who couldn’t keep her kitchen and bathrooms clean enough (LOL, seriously) …Ummmmm, yeah, learning about germs and how they multiply is not a good thing!!! It TOTALLY Grossed me out!! I didn't become completely over the top obsessive compulsive, but let’s just say, now I knew how fast bacteria multiplies on things in the kitchen and bathroom.
I was not going to have them get sick because of my lack of cleaning up chicken juice from the kitchen, or fecal matter out of the bathroom, and don’t even get me started on eating out at restaurants and having my kids use a public bathroom. I was screaming inside my head, “EEEEWWWWWW!!! This is so gross!!!” Let’s just say, I couldn’t live in a bubble and neither could my kids, however, I did feel that would be optimal at times. LOL!!! The best I could do was watch what we ate and what we allowed on our bodies, and make sure my kids washed their hands without a soap that would slowly poison them.
Is there really a price to pay for health?
Seriously, think about it…
How much is your health worth to you?
The skin is the largest organ of the body, ya know?? If ya didn't know, ya do now! It’s also very permeable, it takes 3 seconds for the skin to soak up what you put on it. (That's not a joke…true fact.) and 20 seconds to reach the blood stream. To learn that a lot of the stuff I was using to bathe my kids and myself was toxic was just absurd. How could the US allow so much awful stuff into our stores? This is stuff that doctors recommend we use on our new born babies. They send samples of lotion, baby wash, and baby shampoo home with you from the hospital as a gift when you give birth. It's crazy that a lead company for baby products would want us to start using toxic chemicals on our newly born child (ummmm yeah, Johnson & Johnson, which by the way contains formaldehyde in the US, but not in Europe) The thought was incomprehensible to me. To the point where you think WTH? Right?
Would you rather go to the doctor who is going to give you more chemicals to put in your body???? Because we all know, most doctors want to fix everything with a pill. What do these pills do? Wanna know? Just listen to an advertisement for some sort of new prescription miracle pill. (my beef with the pharmaceutical companies has too long of a list to tell you about here.) The drugs sound AWESOME (insert sarcasm) after you listen to all the side effects, right???
Well here's the kicker…
You can eat healthy all you want, but is your relationship healthy?
Yup, think about that one for a minute. Ever seen anyone verbally abused? Verbal abuse = mental abuse because the verbal abuse gets played inside someone's head for days and in some instances years. It causes lack in one's life, lack of confidence, lack of moving forward, lack of planning ahead, lack of income, and the list could go on. Physical abuse causes even more scars than, and they potentially can last longer. Think about it…child abuse, sexual abuse, spouse abuse…all of that causes trust issues. You have to overcome that obstacle and find self-worth before you can move on in life.
Well, remember above in the beginning of this story, how I said earlier that I had previously left my kids' father? He was abusive…all of them, mental, physical, verbal, and it spilled over to my kids' too. When I came back (when I found out I was 3 months pregnant with Destiny, he promised not to hit me anymore), but was still mentally abusive (which is why I was working on myself). Someone who is a physically abusive person can only hold off for so long. That happened to me when Alicia was seven. I was studying for a nursing exam. He all of a sudden got up and told me to get out of HIS house. She witnessed him grabbing me around the throat and telling me to get out of HIS house) because he felt threatened… I was doing well in school. That was the moment I knew that I had two choices as I looked at her innocent little face with her mouth gaping open. I could let my kids think this was a normal relationship, or end it. I chose to end it. That was one of the hardest moments in my life. I ended my marriage.
So, you need to make money, have a healthy relationship, and then you will have a healthy life
Let's face it, you need to make money to survive in this world. Making money equals bills paid which equals happy family. Nursing pays well, but let's face it…people die. I have the helping gene. I love to help people which is why I became a nurse, but I don't enjoy people dying. When I started getting burned out in nursing, I found out that I really enjoy working online from home and helping people break free from working on someone else's time schedule and having a limited income. We all need to start somewhere. I started with my health and my family's health.
I know what you’re thinking, but Rhonda, it’s expensive to eat healthy and by non-toxic stuff. Ummmmmmmm, no it’s not. You just have to know where to shop. So, I have a really cool store in my town that sells produce which is very economical and organic. The store originated in England and is in the Eastern US as well, it's a grocery chain called Aldi. Aldi is a small store with a smaller parking lot. They have lots of economically priced food along with the produce. They have the cheapest, freshest produce of any store except the farmer's market. I have recently discovered Amazon Fresh, I am in love with having awesome food at a reasonable price delivered to my doorstep which is freakin AWESOME!!
I have also been introduced to a really cool online store where I can replace all of the toxic cleaners I was using for a fraction of the cost. I don’t have to go to WalMart or Target, fight for a parking spot, go through a crowded store only to find the shelf empty for what I was looking for…HUGE WASTE OF TIME…I know that’s happened to you as well, hasn’t it??? I don't know about you, but my time is precious and valuable. Too much so to waste in a ridiculous store that doesn't have enough cashiers and a huge parking lot with crazy people driving through it. Doesn't it always seem like ya gotta park what seems 9 miles away, walk in the freezing cold, rain, or snow, or sweltering heat just to stand in line because there aren’t enough cashiers on duty to check you out. Just deliver everything to my door please!
Can you say time sucking experience???
I no longer have to stand in line, park in huge parking lots, park what seems miles away in the pouring rain and freezing snow, ice and ridiculous heat. I now shop online, get my non-toxic products delivered to my door in 3 days from placing my order. Seriously… how cool is that? And the rest of the stuff I can get from Amazon Fresh or at the little Aldi store.
So, if you’re ready to get started saving time, money, wear and tear on your vehicle, and let’s face it … your sanity … click the big yellow button below and download the Ebook I wrote on how to have a healthier home! You can get started learning how to live a healthier life!
I thought I had too much baggage to meet a good person to spend the rest of my life with. I was abused, had two young kids, school debt, not to mention the crazy person I just left. When you aren't looking, things happen…I was actually friends with this guy for 3 years before he asked me on a date…he has been the father figure I spoke into existence while I was working on myself and my previous marriage. I had no idea that I was speaking another man into existence. I really thought the girls' dad would change. He didn't … So now my kids have a healthy relationship to grow up in (who am I kidding they are now 16 and 18 as I write this) but, yeah, he's a great guy.
He supports me in everything I want to do in life. Now my kids get to see me take risks with life and have a life I only dreamed of before.